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The following are sections of items written on the website,  http://saraway.livejournal.com/  This site is an attempt to help those "moving on" after bereavement, an attempt to answer the questions that are not asked, to try and show that others are "thinking" about some of the same things, but, do not wish to voice their thoughts.

The author of the site requires imput, arguments, other points of view, to make the site what it attempts to be.  Please visit and make comments so that the views of the author, and these may well be wrong, can be put into the right perspective, thanks.

I have never cried. I have never had unstoppable tears running down my face. Is there something wrong with me?.

My mother died when I was eight years old, I well remember my father telling me, I remember nothing about my life prior to this. It was many years later when my older sister died, still a young woman, I did not cry. I did not cry, with joy, at the birth of my sons, or, the death of my father, or, the death of my stepmother. I did not cry at the death of my wife.

Is real heart breaking crying necessary?. Does it show the depths of your feelings, pain, or, loss, or, are we only crying for ourselves?.

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One day, and it will have crept up on you very slowly, you will realise that you miss the personal contact that you had with your partner, that private touch as you passed each other, the quick kiss, that cuddle, those parts of life that are so small, but, mean so much.

For her, it's not the hug that she gets from her girlfriends, for him, it's not the touch on the shoulder from his mates, it's the next, natural step.

Where is that person?. Once again, as with many questions that we have to ask ourselves in our new situation, the answer is out there, but, we have not had to ask the question for a long time.

Since your bereavement you will probably be "out of touch" with social events, you possibly refused many invitations, either because, you felt that it was too soon, or, because you always felt "the odd one out", and, who wants to come home to an empty house?. If you are a she, the wives didn't encourage you close to their husbands, and, if you are a he, the husbands don't want you close to their wives. I told you, I am being honest.

Can you, will you, help others to know that they are not alone.